Many people will be happy and comfortable to talk with you about advance care planning and healthcare issues.
If this is not the case, there are a number of things you might do to help to get a conversation started.
- Find a time when you and the person you want to talk with are not distracted or thinking about other things that need to get done.
- Choose a place that is quiet and relaxing.
- Be clear in your own mind what you want to achieve out of the conversation.
- Explain why you think it’s important to discuss this issue – for both you and them.
- Acknowledge any difficulties they may have and allow them to express their concerns or uncertainties.
- If the other person is not comfortable talking at the moment, don’t force the issue. Ask if they would like to talk about it later.
- You might have a number of small conversations rather than having one big, dramatic conversation where everything is discussed.
If you are a bit unsure how the conversation will go, you could practise with a friend or health professional first to increase your confidence.
Worksheet 1.6: communicating my wishes to others
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